Hands “often louder than words”

Hands are most obvious body language indicators. They can be extremely expressive to show our feelings. So, whether or not people are talking we can understand their thoughts or feelings with the help of their hands.

I will give some basic tips about the signals that our hands give to other people. However, you shouldn’t forget that some gestures have different meanings for different cultures. While trying to give a positive message, you might be misunderstood by the people due to the cultural differences.

Greeting: We often use our hands for greeting. Mostly we shake hands. However, different shaking hands give different messages.

 For instance, if the person holds his hand on top, it is a signal of dominance. On the other hand, to indicate submission the person shakes hands with palm up and a floppy hand. Lastly, the person can shake hands with vertical palms. 

This shows equality.

Touching: If the person touches himself, it is related to self-affirmation or anxiety. When he touches a different person, this indicates domination or friendship.  While touching on your shoulder shows dominance, gently touching on your arm shows friendship. Moreover, the style of touching a person gives different messages.  Using full palm of the hand is warm whilst using just fingertips is less affectionate.

Hiding: We can also use our hands to hide something. If a person doesn’t want to look, he puts his hands to his eyes. Furthermore, if he wants to say something but feels uncomfortable, he puts his hands to his mouth.

If the person tries to hide his hands, it indicates that the person doesn’t want to communicate or collaborate.  It can also show the desire of listening, not talking.

Clenched fist is a signal of anger or solidarity.

                                          

           Thumbs up shows approval while thumbs down shows disapproval.

 Palms up is seen friendly and open while palms down is seen dominant and aggressive. 

Holding something with Cupped Hands may indicate delicacy.

On the other hand, holding it with Gripping Hands can be a signal of possessiveness or desire.

Comfortable or not? When the person feels comfortable, you can understand it by looking his fingers. Possibly, there is much space between his fingers or his thumbs rise more often when he speaks. Steepling is another, possibly the most important, tip showing confidence.

On the other hand, when the person feels stressful, he probably rubs his hands.

Eyes "Windows to the soul" 2

When it comes to how to use our eyes, there might be some tips of our eyes’ situations:

 Looking Up and Right: When s/he looks up and right, it is a signal of imagination of a picture.

 Looking Up and Left: When s/he looks up and left, it is possibly related to an emotional feeling or past experience. The person might be trying to remember a memory.

Looking Up: If s/he looks upwards, it might mean both logical and emotional thinking. Is is a signal of careful thinking. When this occurs, it can be a signal of boredom. It might mean that the person is in search of something more interesting.

Looking Down: Looking down someone shows an uncomfortable situation. If someone looks down, s/he is possibly feeling guilty.

Looking Down and Right: It might refer to sensory impression. This happens when they to remember a taste, feeling or smell.

Looking Down and Left: It shows that the person is talking to himself either loudly or inside his head.

Looking Straight: If you want to understand that whether or not someone lies you, look at her eyes. When s/he tells a lie, s/he looks straight at you to conceal the lie.

Doe Eyes: If someone softens his eyes (called as doe eyes), it might mean relaxation or trust. It is also an indicator of interest. 

       All in all, our eyes give messages to other people more than our speech.

Eyes “Windows to the Soul” 1

Our eyes are one of the most important expressions of our body. When we talk to people, our eyes’ non-verbal communication impresses them much more than our words.

First of all; if you want to use your eyes as a weapon, do not forget to make eye contact. A good eye contact makes people trust you. It gives the message of honesty and genuineness. On the contrary, poor eye contact can mean shyness, superiority or lack of interest. Moreover it might indicate that you are trying to conceal your real feelings.

However, you shouldn’t think this eye contact as persistent eye contact or gazing. If you exaggerate eye contact, people would possibly think that you are trying to deceive them. In such situations other people feel uncomfortable. As a result, it makes things worse.
   The other clue of your eyes’ is your blinking. Of course it is normal to blink. Here the problem is whether you blink too often or too little. If you blink too much, it might indicate that you feel uncomfortable or distressed. However, when you blink too little, people will possibly think that you are trying to control your eye movements.

Rubbing eyes is another way of expressing yourself. When you feel uncomfortable, your eyes may water. So, to cover it or your getting bored you rub your eyes.

use your body language effectively

Before we start to communicate with people, we see them and judge them according to their body posture consciously or unconsciously. I mean, if we want to affect people in a good way, we should learn how to use our body. Learning to use it gives us opportunities like in a job interview or greeting new people. By controlling our body we can easily persuade people or give confidence.

So, in my blog I will express the meaning of different meanings of our eyes, hands or legs etc. positions. Moreover, I will give some tips of using our body language. You will even clearly understand the messages that people give with their body language.